Should You Intervene? Some Benefits and Costs
There can be benefits and costs to intervening, especially when considering clear status and power differences in relationships. For example, it can be more costly to confront someone more powerful. There might be more costs when intervening with a manager than with a peer so different strategies may be needed in these different situations.
Not intervening can lead to “rumination” (repeatedly reflecting on and regretting the inaction), which can have physical, emotional, and job-related effects for bystanders.
Benefits of intervening include reducing the harm experienced, reducing future bias, promoting equity, shifting norms, and increasing the bystander’s self-esteem and positive affect.
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Some Possible Ways to Intervene:
- Ask a question.
- Avoid accusations and instead invite clarification (E.g., “What do you mean by that?”)
- Arouse dissonance: people don’t like to be inconsistent. E.g., “I’m surprised you would say something like that, considering how supportive you are of women in computing.”
- “Pivot:” this is a way of not confronting directly, but letting people know they made a mistake in a socially graceful way. E.g., if someone thinks that a colleague is a clerical worker, walk up and say, “Hi, have you met our new software engineer?” Or, If someone is interrupting someone, say, “I think Jamie had a thought she wanted to finish?”
- Use humor (when appropriate for the situation or your relationship with a colleague).
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